Love.Love. Love. Easy to feel and hard to understand. It’s a simple yet complex emotion and often over analyzed. Love is love. Period.
I originally began writing about the existence of unconditional love about a month ago. (Check out Unconditional Love Parts 1 and 2 here) I couldn’t bring myself to write a conclusion because I didn’t have one yet, but now I do so here it is.
Unconditional love DOES exist.
1. I know for a fact God loves me unconditionally. How do I know this? Because good things keep happening, despite my flawed human behavior my prayers are still answered. And I love him back, so that’s that.
2. My parents love me unconditionally. They just do and always will.
3. I love my parents unconditionally. I just do and always will.
4. I love my family and those I consider family unconditionally. I just do and always will.
With that being said I realized one thing. The condition is not love, it’s like. Love does not have conditions, you love someone or you don’t. There are various types of love, but love is love. I think when people start to experience a different type of love they think they have fallen out of love when really they have just transitioned into a different type of love.
“What about hate?” you say, “Certainly you can’t love someone you hate.”
I shall give you the gift of my favorite quote on the subject matter.
“Isn’t hate merely the result of wounded love?” -Amy Tan
When you ‘hate’ someone you are experiencing wounded love. Still love, anyway you spin it.
Moving on…
After coming to this conclusion I was still wondering what I was feeling when I just absolutely did not like a person. Then it dawned on me… LIKE! That’s the answer! the opposite of like is dislike (obviously). So basically my understanding is this: You love some people and others you have never loved; but whether or not you like or dislike them it has nothing to do with love lost or gained. ‘Like’ is a different emotion with its own category and it is indeed completely conditional.
Love and Like,
Miss J
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What you give to yourself without the relationship beyond love/hate is unconditional love.. This flow of breathing and being, with your lungs filling with air, ability to blink, ability to touch… etc.. All of these movements are unconditional inside of you. It is when you come into contact with another that this can be what you seek. You seek no mind dominance to find it. It happens without the egoic traits of you’ll be who I want you to be and I will be who you want me to be. This is easily identified in the relationship of mother to child. The child will never create a condition that will sever the bond nor will the mother even in despair. When you have felt a heartbeat inside of you.. This now becomes beyond the conditional level it is a bond that signifies connection, never to be removed, never to be placed in a place that conditions are known. You are unconditional love in knowing. You never need to use your mind to engage in it. It just is. The true place of unconditional love will not question this as it never has to be a question or belief. Great post friends.. I suppose when you make your relationship a spiritual practice you learn something more profound and something that can be inside the connection to bring you to the truth of this connection.
Clark,
Thank you for your input, support and the entire post you wrote on your page! You are awesome!
-Miss J
As are you both my friends.. you both are amazing and beautiful! Clark
Hey Clark! Appreciate the kind words.
Yes, we are BOTH your friends. Cheers to the blogging community!
-Mr. J
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