I have known this guy a couple of years now. We kissed a couple of months ago, and now he acts like it never happened or he does not want to talk about it. I have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend, but I still think about our kiss and I’m kind of jealous when he talks about other girls. I want to tell him how I feel but I’m scared. What should I do?
Dear A Kiss I Can’t Forget:
I can go in multiple directions regarding this question. Did the kiss happen while you were both in a relationship or single? How did the kiss happen? Was it just a peck or an intense make-out session? Did it happen only once?
So.Many.Questions. Thanks for leaving me in the dark.
Side-eye.
Despite the possible outcomes regarding the above questions, it’s probably best to just keep your feelings to yourself. He likely doesn’t want to talk about it because (a) he cheated on his girlfriend by kissing you and doesn’t want to get caught up, (b) he really enjoyed the kiss, but is committed to his girlfriend, so he’s pretending it never happened to avoid facing the reality of liking another girl, or (c) he hasn’t thought much about it and didn’t think the kiss was a big deal.
Exploring these feelings while both of you are in a relationship will likely lead to an unfavorable outcome. Keep the friendship casual and observe how things go on both ends over the next few months. If you start getting hints that he has feelings for you, act accordingly. But don’t jump the gun and leave yourself unnecessarily exposed.
Mr. J
Dear Unforgettable Kiss:
First, you need to think long and hard about what it is you are trying to accomplish by spilling your heart to a man that, so far, has had no interest in pouring his heart out to you. Also, their are two other parties involved and they deserve fair treatment. Your current boyfriend should be more than a plan B for you, so regardless of how the man you kissed feels about you, you should probably let fall back guy move on.
Next, you should consider that you could be your friend’s plan B. Is that good enough for you? Probably not. He has a girlfriend, he hasn’t acknowledged your kiss, and he talks about other women in your presence? That sounds like someone that is full of bologna and you do not need that in your life, not now, not ever.
If this man is interested in a relationship with you, he will absolutely let you know.
