Disclaimer: This is not all about Twilight, pinky promise!
This one is for the women….
Extra! Extra! Read all about it! News broke this morning that Miss Kristen Stewart (Bella) has cheated on Mr. Robert Pattinson (Edward) with Mr. Rupert Sanders (Director of Snow White and the Huntsman). Sorry Twi-hards, I guess the honeymoon is over. But wait, there’s more! Not only did Kristen cheat on Rob, she cheated on him with a married man. Rupert, 41 and married with 2 young children met 22 year old Kristen Stewart while on set of Snow White and the Huntsman. Recently the two were caught cupcaking on camera. *cue incriminated pictures* Oops.
Though Rob and Kristen have always played coy to the public eye it is no secret that Rob is/was completely and totally in love with her. This made me wonder, why would a 22 year old successful woman in a (from what we can see) healthy relationship feel the need to fool around with a married man? What am I missing…
Judge as we may, Kristen is not the only one to fall into the arms of an already claimed man. It doesn’t make you an evil person (just an evil doer for a period of time ). I have heard various reasons as to why men step out of their marriage, each excuse more pathetic than the last; but I am curious as to why a woman with all the options in the world would opt for the man that is already spoken for.
What purpose does it really serve? I don’t want the answer that women say just because they don’t want to be judged, I want the REAL reason. Is it the thrill, is it the fact he is capable of commitment (only if and when he leaves his wife for you of course), is it the fact that there are no real strings attached, is it boredom, is it the possibility of winning a man from another woman? What is it?!? Don’t be shy, Chime in!
Love,
Miss J
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I would imagine cheating steams largely from boredom. We remember how fun it is to date someone new and miss all the butterflies associated with a first kiss or sleeping with someone with a brand new passion. I just don’t quite understand cheating because personally I would feel too guilty. Logically it makes more sense to either end the relationship or ignore desires and work on building the strength of your relationship….but easier said than done for some people. Temptation is difficult.
On the other hand, a single girl choosing to have an affair with a man she knows is married probably makes her feel superior and special. She’d feel like shes able to satisfy a need that his wife isn’t satisfying. People, especially young people, can mistake love for a game to win someones affection, beating out the other competitors.
p.s. maybe Rupert got his wife and Kristen mixed up since they both have dark hair, a triangle shaped face, similar looking noses, and the same type of smile. If that’s the case…I could see how he made the error. haha 😉
I would agree to a certain extent that women do it for emotional reasons and perhaps due to something lacking in her relationship. I personally have faced this dilemma, and it stems 9/10 times I believe from a friendship, most certainly. Therein would be the emotional tie. Although, I have also encountered situations of this magnitude, where it was only driven out of a physical need of wanting to be satisfied. Did I follow through with it? No. Was I satisfied with my relationship? yes. But had there been a lapse in judgement, or had I got caught up in the moment, would I have gone through with it? Most likely.
This really is the age old argument of when it comes to cheating-women do it out of emotion and men do it out of physicality. I can understand that argument, but I also believe that women are physical creatures as well, not just emotional. But, playing devil’s advocate, to associate women as just emotional and men as just physical would be gender discrimination. Both genders can easily fall for either, or both, physical and/or emotional reasonings.
Btw, this is Brittany Rutherford! We used to dance together … I just started my own blog and found yours 🙂 … I love this idea and will most definitely be looking forward to hearing everyone’s thoughts.
I completely agree with AllyJ. Before I met my boyfriend I may have had my doubts and probably would have blamed the married man. However, now being in a relationship where I’m completely satisfied and 100% entirely happy and loved … the thought never comes into my mind and is unfathomable! She is lacking something in her relationship most definitely. I have to keep reminding myself they aren’t really Bella and Edward, hahah!
Awww Miss J, you realize that your inbox will be overflowing with comments, this topic makes for great discussion. Let me chime in, as a married woman of 14 years I proudly say I have not cheated on him. Let me make this simple..There is a need that is not being met in Kristen, whether it be physical, emotional or spiritual. Women don’t cheat just to cheat, women cheat because needs are not being met by the spouse, women aren’t physical creatures we are emotional! men on the pther hand well, they are physical creatures, they really use the eyes if you get what Im saying?
Anyhow, I’m not justfying the cheating, I am however, bringing up a good point here. When women are completly and totally satisfied in their relationships there is nothing and noone that can deter them from their spouse. But find a woman who is not satisfied? All it it takes is the right words, and show of emotion to sweep her off her feet.
I’m sure there will be many disagreeing with me, but I too often see it, and hear it in my own circles. Also, the same goes for men. I want to read some other responses 🙂