Q: Hi, Love Jays!
How do you feel about dating co-workers, especially ones that are higher up than you? I’ve been flirting a lot with someone that I work with and it constantly feels like we are dancing around this line that we know we probably shouldn’t cross but want to. Any advice?
A: Dear Dating a Higher Up,
‘Tis the season for dating in the workplace!
I’ll get right to my thoughts and spare you of another long winded intro about the same topic we answered a few hours prior in a different post.
I’m definitely open to the idea of dating in the workplace and don’t think any less of those who use work as their primary feeding ground to pick up men or women. It’s easy and convenient; completely understand. On the flip side, I encourage people to exercise caution when deciding to date one of their co-workers, especially if they have a direct influence over you.
Say the two of you started dating, things go south, then he/she uses their position to make your job a nightmare. Would you be okay with such a consequence? It’s easy to overlook the negative outcomes when we’re blinded by our emotions.
Be honest with yourself. Do you enjoy working at your job? Can you see yourself here for many years? Are you willing to risk ruining a possible promotion? Does everyone know each other’s business? These are the types of questions you have to answer when deciding if the two you should start dating. If you weighed out the pros/cons and it feels like the right thing to do, go for it!
YOLO, right?
Sincerely,
Mr. J
A: Dear Should I Date My Co-Worker,
To avoid being way to0 repetitive for one day, I will simply say “What Mr. J said.” 🙂
Good Luck!
Love,
Miss J
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An anonymous comment from one of our readers offering an interesting perspective!
“I somewhat agree… The law of attraction can sometimes make you feel stronger for someone who otherwise would not be the person you thought you would be attracted to you.. The higher the level of interest the stronger the need or want to be with that person… This is both exciting and yet forbidden… You will surely be brought into the present moment of doing the unexpected when it happens you lose your will to fight it… Your mind will engage the thought …your body will envision the possibilities …. and your soul will be still. You see it is quite the triple response… Not that you as an identity chose this.. It is you as the forbidden see the possibility of connection. On an energy level. The soul will feel the vibration and dare to reach another soul.. This illusion will speak to you in different forms… The reason it never turns out well is your ability to seek a connection in it… Whereas inside yourself you will use your mind to make it a choice. These variables never work well… The mind will keep you from feeling completely, the lust will make you feel alive, and the soul will reach for none of the above…. If your soul is powerful and strong enough it will elect to find a job or career elsewhwere to explore the trueness without the thought processes of what this could mean as it pertains to connection… I suppose you could make this choice to pursue yet realize you are asking for the consequence of being caught. What is there without this feeling is the true natures of what you seek… It may not be the truth inside you but outside you…. Well imagine the passion felt in that moment should you give in…. Do you see my point?”