Dear Love Jays:
Hi, I am celibate, but I can’t find a man who will just keep it in his pants. Sometimes, I feel like I need to lose my virginity. Help!
Dear *Sigh*:
I.Feel.You.
Celibacy is not for everyone, in fact, it’s not for most people. People like sex and more than that, they are obsessed with it. You take sex out of the equation and either the person is completely uninterested or they see getting in your pants as a challenge. In the end, sex is still the goal.
Although this all may seem incredibly discouraging, I encourage you to keep up the good fight. Virginity is not something you should lose for any other reason than being ready for the right reason. Your temple, your rules. Sex will not keep a man, at least not in the way you would want it to. Save yourself for someone who actually deserves to enter your temple, you’ll thank yourself later.
Miss J
Dear It’s Hard Out Here:
Much respect and congratulations for making the decision to remain celibate. You will likely save yourself some heartache on the path to discovering Mr. Right.
Here’s the truth: most men are horny. Even when we try to curb our sexual appetite, it comes rushing back like a great wave heading towards shore. We can try to keep swimming under the wave, but eventually, one of those waves will be too big to avoid. It also doesn’t help that we live in a hypersexualized society where it’s easier to access sexual stimulation than clean water.
Additionally, celibacy is perceived to be a religious practice. A growing number of people are becoming less affiliated with organized religion, consequently resulting in a smaller group who prioritize celibacy.
I encourage you to remain steadfast in your belief and pray for a likeminded individual to come your way. Do not compromise your morals just to appease today’s standards. You will find great reward in developing an intimate relationship without the pressures of sex.
Mr. J