This will probably be a 2 or 3 parter so bear with me!
During the holiday season I had a conversation that really struck a chord. My family and I were sitting around the dinner table and a family member brought up the concept of unconditional love. His argument was that unconditional love does not really exist because everyone’s love has conditions.
Admittedly I was quick to agree. It made perfect sense. For example, I have a HUGE problem with cheating. I don’t understand it and I see it as a valid reason to terminate a relationship. Ergo my love has a limit and/or condition. Some challenged the idea; however eventually,like me, they were pretty quick to accept love is indeed conditional.
The conversation died down just as fast as it started and soon we were back to talking about turkey and family gossip, but I couldn’t shake the realization that unconditional love does not and never did exist.
From that point on I went on a “love bender”. I was devastated. How is it that I am not capable of loving unconditionally? Wait a minute, if that’s true than the reverse must be too. I can’t be loved unconditionally? What a cruel joke life had pulled!
I decided I was going to have to find the answer for myself. If it turned out to be true, fine. I would just have to deal with it. If it turned out to be false, awesome! So for the next couple of weeks I will take you through my journey and what I discovered about unconditional love.
In the meantime, what are your thoughts? Do you think love has conditions? If yes, why? If no, why not? I want to hear from you!
Love,
Miss J
See Unconditional Love Part 2 here!
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While we ponder love’s conditions, listen to this song about falling in love having a condition 🙂 How did I not notice this before?!
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Dear Miss J,
I love your blogs and most of the time I totally agree with your advice. While I do not disagree with your observations regarding unconditional love, there is one area where I think most people would agree that the love is unconditional, and that is the love a parent has for their child. I speak from experience that no matter what my daughter does I will always love her. Even if my daughter committed an unthinkable crime, it would break my heart and cause me grief and sadness. I would definately not condone it, but as a mother I would not stop loving her. It may be hard for someone who is not a parent to understand that conditional love DOES exist, but trust me it does and if you don’t believe me, just ask your mother!
Kim,
Thank you for bringing this up! I did question this aspect as well and I will talk about it in my later post. Thanks so much for your input!!
Love,
Miss J