Dear Love Jays,
I still care about my ex, but do to certain circumstances, now is not the time to be together. I know we can’t be together, but I do not want to cut her off and I also don’t want to keep her in a state of waiting. What should I do?
Dear Waiting Game,
Make a decision and make it quick! Most women are not going to just sit around and wait for men to decide the “best time” to be together nor will they be strung along. It’s never easy to watch someone you care for walk out of your life, but if circumstances prevent you from making the commitment, you may have to face the harsh reality.
It’s unfair for both of you to play a game of emotional hide-and-seek. Letting people go is sometimes the best thing you can do for a person because it allows both of you to explore other options completely independent from each others thoughts, opinions or influence. If losing her is not a risk you are willing to take, reexamine those “circumstances” and find a way to make it work. Just be careful not to sacrifice your own happiness for the happiness of someone else!
Sincerely,
Mr. J
A: Relationship Limbo,
Letting go is hard to do, but when it comes to an ex, who you do not intend on being with and who still has feelings, you have to. If you truly care about her, you have to let her heal.
I do not know what your circumstances are, but if it is something serious you have to embrace the reality of the situation. Keeping her around with her hoping you guys will be something more would be selfish. If you respect and care about her the way you say you do, you need to prove it.
Love,
Miss J
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