The Good Ole’ Love at First Sight Question

Q: Dear Love Jays,

Do you believe in love at first sight? I think I saw the love of my life the other day, but I’m hesitant to tell her. Should I?

A: Dear Love at First Sight,

I definitely believe in love at first sight. Story time!

In July 2007, I was working a basketball camp at my alma mater when I noticed a beautiful young lady walking through the cafeteria. I quickly told one of my teammates and both of them encouraged me to introduce myself. I went back-and-forth for a good 5 minutes and could not muster up the courage to get out my chair. Right when I convinced myself to go over there, one of my older teammates swooped on the beautiful lady and introduced himself. The young lady was looking for a specific building on campus, so my teammate directed her to the appropriate building.

Immediately after lunch concluded, my teammate and I scurried over to the building where the young lady was headed. We found the room and patiently waited for another opportunity to speak with her. We never got the opportunity to speak with her, but we did get a chance to speak with her mother (it was registration day for first-year students, so she was accompanied by her mom). My teammate did the majority of the talking with the young lady’s mother while I examined her body trying to look for a name tag. She didn’t have a name tag and the mother never introduced her daughter to us. They walked out the room and I never spoke a word to her.

I headed back to the gym and told my teammate, “I’m going to date that girl one day.” If you haven’t already figured it out, the beautiful lady who walked through the cafeteria on that July afternoon was the lovely Miss J! School started a few weeks after and I was able to catch her attention through a desperate/thirsty act (give me a break – I was 18-years- old) and the rest is history!

Moral of the story: love at first sight does exist. I know firsthand. Mustering up the courage to introduce yourself may be difficult, but it will all be worth it. Stay away from the “I fell in love with you at first sight” line and you will be good. Your heart knows best – don’t let a good one get away!

Sincerely,

Mr. J

Dear Awe Struck, 

Do I believe in actual “love” at first sight?….eh that’s hard to say.

Men are such visual creatures and when you SEE  something you like I believe you feel intense infatuation and lust. These two emotions mimic love in intensity. Therefore I feel it is more appropriate to say I believe in “I like what I see and I want it” at first sight. This is not to say women cannot experience something similar, I am sure most do, but I think they are more inclined to take it a step further and have a conversation with a man before deciding “it’s love”. In this case I would say it is more appropriate to call it ” I like what I see, I like what I hear, and I want it” at first sight.

Love takes takes time. No way around it. You can really like someone, you can get along really well, and I really do believe we all have the ability to see whether or not you could possibly fall in love with a person from the first few encounters. Now some have clouded vision, but if you are 100% real with yourself you will know. Just one of God’s many great gifts he gives his children. Embrace it!

So back to your question, if you are feeling that strongly and you have really connected with her I suggest you tell her just that.

Love,

Miss J

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