Southern Hospitality

southern hospitality

Justin and Joy recap their trip to Atlanta and discuss the importance of being intentional, yet calm while dating.

  • Exploring the idea of living in ATL for a few months.
  • An Atlanta gym embracing southern tradition a little too much.
  • Justin’s experience at his first speaker’s conference.
  • Why do we explore other cities more than we explore our own?
  • Day dates and activity dates should be your go-to move.
  • Our 1st “First Class” flying experience.
  • Special thanks to our ATL Love Jays Crew for brunching with us!
  • Why leading with “I’m looking for a relationship” while dating can work against you.
  • And much more!

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Dating While Broke

dating while broke
  • Happy 4th of July!
  • Joy enjoying her weekends without Justin. Coincidence or not?
  • Why showering together isn’t a good idea.
  • A clear breakdown between Justin’s message and tone.
  • Charlamagne Tha God’s book, Black Privilege.
  • Rich people’s ability to name their children whatever the hell they want.
  • Misconceptions on how expensive a first date should be.
  • Navigating the dating scene affordably.
  • And much more!

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Getting to Know You

Q: Dear Love Jays,

There’s a guy I met at a party a couple of weeks and ended up talking to for a lot of the time. I don’t see him much, even though we’re in the same program (at a university) but we really hit it off and I’m now debating whether it’s something I should pursue. I really enjoyed being with him and we run into each other every now and then, but it’s only for a short while. I feel almost like I’d have to work really hard to see him and I just don’t know which route to take. I want to get to know him better but how? I feel like it may be too soon to ask him out just a simple coffee date or something since we don’t know each other that well.

A: Dear Miss Timid,

What is there to debate?

You met a young man who obviously caught your eye, the two of you really hit it off, both of you are in the same program at the same university and you really enjoy being with him?? Sounds like four really strong reasons to invite him on a little coffee date!

A simple coffee date is relatively harmless and coffee shops create a great environment for casual conversation. I understand it has only been a few weeks, but sitting around waiting for “the right time” to ask him to join you for coffee seems like a complete waste. I’m pretty confident most men are not concerned about any type of date being “too soon”, especially if it is the woman who is asking.

Next time you see him on campus engage him in small talk then extend the invite. As for getting to know him better, start with your similarities. What made you decide to study at this university? Why did you choose this program? Are you involved in any extracurricular activities on campus? What are some of your hobbies? These four questions alone should jump start the conversation and lead you down a pretty informal, informational conversation about each other.

Put your cute clothes on and do what women do best – attract men!

Sincerely,

Mr. J

A: Dear A Simple Coffee Date, 

I think a simple coffee/yogurt/smoothie date is an excellent idea! It’s not often we find people we genuinely click with. When you find someone you want to get to know better there is no such thing as “too soon” , but there is a such thing as wasting time. Don’t waste yours.

I don’t think it needs to be a “date” per-say, just try to keep it as simple as possible. Maybe one day after class mention you are going for coffee and ask if he wants to join, if he has somewhere to go say something to let him know the offer stands and you would like to go soon. Just give him enough to let him know your interested, but hold back enough to leave him wanting to get to know you more.

Leave the asking of the “big date” up to him. Best of Luck!

Love,

Miss J

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